Big thanks for Correspondence letting me contribute. I appreciate anyone and everyone who has taken a few minutes out of their day to read and heed what I've written here. I don't take that gift lightly.
Rian, I've heard you say or write versions of this quote (see below) a few times and, geezus, it hits hard each time. Once you see it (in your own life), you can't unsee (the truth of) it. I've spent the last 30 years going through Franco's betatization process and only starting to understand "Where am I?", along with, "How did I get here?"
NGL, it is disorienting as hell to learn your perception of reality, your mental models, were so wrong. You accept you were naive AND betrayed by industrial scale social conditioning. The game is rigged (especially today, but always was) and I believe only a fraction of men will ever be willing and able to accept the reality you describe in your quote below. You have agency, but exercising it is not for the weak. Change is always hard, and harder still when those depending on you resist it.
"Ask yourself what you would do with your life if everyone who depended on you died tomorrow? Now go do that. Aspire to be that. You were not put on this earth to light yourself on fire to keep others warm, nor will anyone reward you for your sacrifice. They won’t even acknowledge it was a sacrifice at all. It was simply what they expected of you. And If you think being the best plow horse for a lifetime will get you that nice, warm stable as a reward in the end, you’re in for a rude awakening. Horses that no longer plow are sent to the glue factory."
Big thanks for Correspondence letting me contribute. I appreciate anyone and everyone who has taken a few minutes out of their day to read and heed what I've written here. I don't take that gift lightly.
Happy to have you as a guest. You're welcome back anytime.
Rian, I've heard you say or write versions of this quote (see below) a few times and, geezus, it hits hard each time. Once you see it (in your own life), you can't unsee (the truth of) it. I've spent the last 30 years going through Franco's betatization process and only starting to understand "Where am I?", along with, "How did I get here?"
NGL, it is disorienting as hell to learn your perception of reality, your mental models, were so wrong. You accept you were naive AND betrayed by industrial scale social conditioning. The game is rigged (especially today, but always was) and I believe only a fraction of men will ever be willing and able to accept the reality you describe in your quote below. You have agency, but exercising it is not for the weak. Change is always hard, and harder still when those depending on you resist it.
"Ask yourself what you would do with your life if everyone who depended on you died tomorrow? Now go do that. Aspire to be that. You were not put on this earth to light yourself on fire to keep others warm, nor will anyone reward you for your sacrifice. They won’t even acknowledge it was a sacrifice at all. It was simply what they expected of you. And If you think being the best plow horse for a lifetime will get you that nice, warm stable as a reward in the end, you’re in for a rude awakening. Horses that no longer plow are sent to the glue factory."
Awesome. Love it
"Frame" is one of the best books I have ever read
Glad to see you got value from it.
Great read
Been thinking a lot about how the ego must live in the open heart and feel like Rian agrees but with different language
long as you get there doesn't matter
Agreed! I’m gonna do a quick write up on this for next week and we can compare vocabulary
Good stuff. Really appreciate the option for audio.